How to help with foster care, even if you aren’t a foster parent.

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Foster Care. Wow. What an incredibly deep subject to talk about! Let me tell you, this has been the hardest post I have ever had to write! It has taken me almost TWO WEEKS to finish this post! Normally I can bust ’em out pretty quick, but I didn’t want this one to feel rushed. I wanted to do it right and do my research and really understand the subject before writing about it.

Now, it's important for you to know this; I have no personal experience with foster care. I did not grow up "in the system" and I am not lucky enough to be a foster parent. Most of my education on this subject is coming from research and personal testimonies from friends and family members who have gone through it. So please, take this with a grain of salt.

What is Foster Care?

Well, Wikipedia states, “Foster care is a system in which a minor has been placed into a ward, group home, or private home of a state-certified caregiver, referred to as a “foster parent” or with a family member approved by the state.”

But that is too impersonal for me. So, since I live in Utah, I decided to check out utahfostercare.org to find out a little more. Utah Foster Care (UFC) is a non-profit organization that helps find, train, and support families who are willing to put it all on the line for these children in need. I was surprised to find that this site is FULL of information about getting involved.

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I am a parent who wishes so badly to be able to help kids in foster care, or even just to support my fellow mommies who are foster parents. In preparation for this post, I put a blast out on facebook asking for help. I was overwhelmed with how many of my friends and even close family who were foster parents or knew someone who was.

The majority of them told me that the best I can do to help was get involved. To just donate, offer support, volunteer, etc. So many people often forget that being a parent is the most stressful and rewarding thing a person can do. Add in children who are not your own, whom may or may not have biological parents still fighting for their parental rights or involvement, and could possibly have many unknown factors still to be discovered.

Any kind of clothing all sizes can be donated to their local Department of Health and Human Services or CPS and can go to kids in need. If they know of any foster families, just cooking a meal is super helpful. Offering to watch the kids while the parents have a night to themselves. Fostering can take its toll on a marriage so it’s very important that they can have that time. There are so many things that can be helpful.

Foster Mommy, Michigan

Moved and inspired

Here are just a couple of stories from mommies who are foster parents. Out of respect, I want to keep all of these moms and their families anonymous. If you feel like sharing your own story and experience with foster care, please feel free to comment below or even message me personally. I would LOVE to chat with you!

So quick background with me… we are going through the process of licensing. We took the classes 5 years ago, but found out our older home would never pass an inspection and I found out I was pregnant with our 3rd child while taking the classes. We took a break to upgrade our home, and now back at it again. Being a foster care mom wasn’t always my dream. It has always been my husband’s though. Ever seen This Is Us? We relate SO much. He decided to pursue teaching and has always wanted to make a big impact on the world, and feel he can do the best working with children. When we were first married, he shared his dream of foster care and I thought he was nuts! But 8 years and 4 children later, it’s become a dream I am also passionate and excited about. We are so passionate that we chose to stop our biological children at 4 so that we could financially/mentally/physically have room for more children. We knew if we had more biological, foster care wouldn’t be as easily attained. This way we have room for sibling sets, which is so desperately needed.

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What made me want to be a foster parent? A dream. My husband and I had multiple dreams and after talking about them and what they mean, we felt pushed to move forward with foster care. We are also unable to have children, so that pushed us a bit as well.
When we lost the boys and had fertility issues we started discussing doing foster care. While discussing it we found out that I had a tubal pregnancy and my Fallopian tube had ruptured. It almost killed me and we knew what we were supposed to do so after my recovery we started going to training classes and started our paperwork for fostering.

Quick reminder

Please remember, if you are considering foster care, do your homework. Research specifically for the state you live in. Each state will vary on its resources and requirements. I also encourage you to reach out to friends and family that you might know for their tips and experiences.

Want to make huge leaps and bounds towards unconditional love?

First off, if you are not a part of my Facebook group, you should totally request to join here! We have a lot of fun in there, and this month we are having sort of a challenge with a super fun prize at the end of the month. If you are already a member, don’t forget to comment and share this post. Volunteer your time and resources. Some of that may just be spreading the word! Spreading knowledge is one of the most effective ways to spread unconditional love! Why? Because it is free and shows that you care.

Sunday Spotlight, Kourtney Bond

Welcome to another Sunday Spotlight! Today, I present to you Bond, Kourtney Bond!

Ha she might kill me for that one, but I had too! I work with Kourtney, and that is how we met. This girl has an incredible story. When I first met her, I envied her life. She is pretty, upbeat, outgoing, has a great husband, smart, etc. From an outsider looking in, her life looked perfect! I started to get to know her and soon realized that she was SO much more! Kourtney’s life has been anything but easy! She worked really hard for what she has today, and that is the true accomplishment! Another thing I love about her, is that she is open and willing to share her story, because she truly believes that it could help someone else.

So, enough lollygagging, here is Kourtney’s story!

Kourtney
Well, I have grown up in South Ogden all my life! I got married about 4 years ago, seriously we are best friends! We love to be outside!! Skiing, hiking, biking… we love adventures! We also love to travel!! We try to take one big trip a year! Last year we went to Kauai, and we almost never came home! It’s by far our favorite place to go! I came home and have applied for job there ever since? seriously if the right one became available I wouldn’t hesitate to move there!
After returning home from Hawaii our life changed dramatically. After a 2 1/2 year battle with infertility, and several miscarriages we found out we were pregnant again with our little boy Bode.
Since this week is National Infertility Awareness Month I thought I would open up and share our struggle with a year and a half battle of reoccurring miscarriages, one right after another. Every loss was devastating, and it was so difficult to keep trying. After loosing our little girl Hope (2nd miscarriage) in our second trimester I didn’t want to try again. It took us a while to get back to having the courage to try again.
We experienced one more early loss before finding the perfect OBGYN to help us get Bode here. After countless labs, A LOT of progesterone, some bed rest and weekly visits to either our OB or the our high risk perinatal doctor IT WAS DELIVERY DAY! Our little guy made it safe and sound! He is 5 month old this month and this is life as we know it, everything is different, and hard and wonderful and I wouldn’t change a thing! Being a mom is truly not meant for the weak, it’s a never ending job!!
After pregnancy I quickly found myself dealing with some sever Postpartum depression.
For a long time is was very debilitating, some days it still is. I hope by sharing this anyone who is dealing with the same thing can realize it’s OK, it’s normal, you can get through it but to get help! I went to a new doctor that specializes in hormones and finding the root cause of your anxiety or and other health problems.
After a few visits, tests and labs we found the answer not only to my PPD but to the infertility and reoccurring miscarriages. I was diagnosed with Graves Disease and with Hyperthyroidism. Making a successful pregnancy almost impossible. Since receiving treatment for these I have felt SO much better! And I realize just how big of a miracle it was to be able to have a healthy, happy BABY!! Hopefully we will be able to manage and control this disease and in a few years be able to try again to give Bode a brother or sister!
On my journey through PPD and being a new mamma getting ready and taking care of myself was something I didn’t even want to do, and didn’t have the time to do either.
My friend introduced some quick Mommy Makeup!!
It has saved my appearance ? without it I would have nothing on my face and actually look like I’m sleep deprived and tired ALL the time!! It’s called Maskcara Cosmetics and it has changed not only my morning routine but has boosted my confidence completely! It has been that “something” just for me!
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After using the product and loving it I wanted to share it with other busy women! I joined the Maskcara Beauty family in February and I love the sisterhood that came with it, the flexible schedule it provides and the residual income that has helped pay more than half of our mortgage within the first month. Our owner and our team leads are so uplifting, friendly and very helpful! Being apart of this has helped me gain my confidence back, plus helped me feel like ME again, which i think many women loose when they become a new mom.
So easy, kids can do it!

I am so excited to see where this new chapter in our little families life will take us.

I am so grateful for our journey, even the heartbreak that has led us to where we are today. Struggles, losses and hard times definitely change you, and transform you into a better person. -Kourtney Bond Click To Tweet They can do one of two things, destroy you and make you miserable or as you go through them if you have faith and hope, you will come out stronger, learn lessons, gain friends and will lead you to a place in life you didn’t know you even needed to be!

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Moms like Kourtney really make it easy to see that not every pregnancy is easy, or picture perfect. Life can be hard, but it’s what you do to handle the stress that defines you. It’s important to always look up. Always look on the bright side. Thank you Kourtney for sharing your story with the Real Mom Blogs community!

Now, if any of you are interested in Maskcara, let me or Kourtney know! We are going to be doing a live video chat sometime (hopefully in the near future) on the Real Mom Blogs Facebook page. So make sure you go “like” us, and follow so you don’t miss it! We will both be talking about our experiences with Maskcara and how it works differently for every person. There will most likely be a demo, to show you all how quick and easy it is too!

But wait, there’s more!

In the mean time, go check out Kourtney’s Instagram!

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